Where to even begin...Life has been a roller-coaster to say the least. I have been married for 3 years, just turned 27, had a puppy for 8 months and the greatest news of all, I am expecting my first baby! I am about 6 weeks away from my expected due date and we are so excited to welcome her into our lives. It still feels surreal and I have no idea what to expect. Her nursery is mostly ready and it still hasn't hit home. I can't wait to have her in my arms and begin this intimidating adventure.
Arthur and I have had our ups and downs. We have definitely learned each others flaws and now we need to learn how to address them or to deal with them. We try to remain as civil as possible but some arguments still get blown out of proportion. I feel some of his biggest issues is family issues and things rooted from his upbringing. He tends to be afraid to choose sides in regards to family and has a really hard time understanding that there are now two sides of the family and two very very different family dynamics. I have a large extended family and he has a big immediate family. Its hard for us to balance to two when it comes to holidays and family functions. I wonder if things will ever be different or if we will be arguing about holidays till the end of time. It upsets me that his family pressures his brother on him so much. I feel like because they are brothers they have to be together for everything. I don't understand why he got married if they were so afraid to let him go from the family. Believe me I am all about family bonds and family time however there is a limit and no guilt trip is needed if events can't be attended, etc. His mom still makes comments about ownership and random comments indicating that he still is part of the family that even catches everyone's attention in an awkward way. I hope this is just a phase and that it passes. Hopefully when Mitcho finds his life partner they can steal some of this focus. :) I feel like these are the root of most of our arguments. Unfortunately I hear a lot of your parents/family comparisons. I feel like that is going to ruin us. What to dooo?? Anyways, Arthur has been admitted into USC's Masters program that he starts concurrently with the biggest job of his life; fatherhood. We are very excited for his acceptance and hope it will open many doors in his future. Although it comes at a very stressful time I am sure he will be successful in his studies and it will be very rewarding for him. He is also up for his managers position when she retires in September. We all have our fingers crossed for his as this will also be a great advancement for him.
Financially things have been rather tough for us. It seems every month we just go deeper and deeper into debt. On top of it all my relationship with my employer was at an all time low causing extreme stress and depression in my life. As I found out I was expecting, my hours got cut to two days for no good reason. Here I am prepared to put everything into saving for our baby and paying off our debt but my manager decides otherwise. Here began my stressful pregnancy. Fortunately I was able to find a way out of that bad environment and avoid the nights I come home sobbing because of work. I was able to get on an early disability due to this excruciating back pain I've had. I plan to look for another job before having to go back to work so we will see how that goes. As far as school is concerned, I will be taking this semester off as we will be welcoming a new baby and Arthur will be busy with his obligations. I plan to return the following semester once I get a handle on this new life. I can't wait for the day to finally graduate and close the book on this chapter of my life. College has proven to be the most difficult goal to reach but I refuse to give up.
Overall Arthur and I have been very blessed. We have filled our house with all the things we could need and more. We have gone on many great vacations and trips and seen many things together. I look forward to these moments and look forward to having our kids with us in the future.
My parents have had a rough couple years since I've married and moved out. They both lost their jobs almost simultaneously and as a result have had the fate of their house lingering in the banks house for years as they struggle with lawyers and bankers. Unfortunately we lost my grandpa (12/12) and great grandma (4/13??) within the last couple years. My parents house was broken into, and my dad suffered a heart attack. Both were pretty traumatic to me and help me realize the important things in life are your relationships with those you care about and to live and appreciate each day. I pray that these dark days are over and that brighter and more prosperous days are ahead.
I hope that by my next update, I will have a beautiful baby girl who is healthy and thriving in life. A husband who has a great job and doing well in school and loving parenthood. I hope to report that our marital issues are minimal to non existent and that our love his beyond imaginable. :) I would have a upcoming graduation date in which I will be participating in and a wonderful new job that is supportive of my duties as a mother. And lastly that we are building our savings account with all our debt paid off. :) Till then...
